How To Be A Decent Human Being

I am a therapist. The sit on a couch and tell me your problems kind. All day I listen to people's heartbreaks, failures, traumas, and short comings. I sit, I listen, I empathize, and I try to offer a new perspective. What I wish I could do is give advice. So in my real, non-therapist life, I am going to do just that. I have been discovering that more and more people don't know how to be decent human beings. So I'm here to help y'all out!

Relationship Edition:

I have been with the same man for the past 6 and a half years. In 6 and a half weeks he will be my husband. Our relationship is not perfect and it never has been. None are. There have been times where we were so far apart I never thought we would get to the point we are at now. We had no contract to bind us together. We had no repercussions for walking away. So how did we get to this point? HARD WORK YALL! Oh yea and some love and compassion too.

  1. You aren’t perfect and neither is the person you picked. There will be times when you annoy the shit out of each other, when you don’t have common interests, and when you don’t like things about your partner. I garundamntee you that the feeling is mutual. 
  2. Your partner can’t (and won’t) MAKE you happy! If you are expecting them to, then you ought to check yourself.
  3. If you want someone to trust you, prove you are worth trusting! If you do shit to betray that trust FIX IT.
  4. Surprise! You aren’t a mind reader!! Neither is your partner! You learned language for a reason! Use it!
  5. Honesty is ALWAYS the best policy. Sometimes honesty hurts. If you don’t want to know if your partner finds someone attractive, don’t ask. 
  6. Which brings me to my next point; if you were attractive before you got into your relationship/marriage/partnership I am going to go out on a limb and assume that you will be attractive even after you get with that person. WHO GIVES A SHIT. People will always show attention (flirt) with people they find attractive if they have nothing at stake. If you are in a relationship then YOU do have something at stake. RESPECT IT. 
  7. SHITTY PEOPLE DON’T GIVE A FUCK. And by that I mean, to some people you being “spoken for” means nothing to them and they will pursue you anyways. Don’t throw it away for shitty people who mean nothing to you in the long run.
  8. If you enter into a relationship with a person who was in a relationship with someone when the feelings started, do not fool yourself for a second into believing that what you two create will be healthy. Even in your “best case scenario” (2gether4ever) you will still be thinking for the rest of your life that it can (and it probably will) happen to you. 
  9. Compliments go real far yall!
  10. BE KIND TO EACH OTHER. Have your partner be your best friend. The first person you tell when something amazing/tragic/life changing/boring/sweet/funny happens in your life. 

For more reference I recomend you watch this whole thing but if you want to get to the point I’m trying to make, skip to the 53 minute mark and watch until minute 57 at least.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Hj3ZNrkVM8A

GOOD NIGHT AND GOOD LUCK

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